Whether it is a lesson in class or life, you always get to understand it better through examples. Especially for children, mere moralizing is not enough. The supreme way to spread good values is by setting personal examples for children from early age. Little kids, especially boys, act and behave like spider man, superman or batman. Why? , because it is not only said but has been proven that children learn by imitating.
Today a non-school going kid knows all rhymes and alphabets by heart since it’s the world of technology. If kids pick up so easily what is shown in poems than it’s a no problem for them to follow what happens in their homes. Not only children but a lot of people also don’t like giving an ear to advice hence the best way to show them the difference between right and wrong is through examples.
A mother tells her kids to always behave in a gentle way with other whereas she herself does not treat people in a good way. What’s the use of her advice when she herself is not showing a model deed or action to be followed by her kids. Abdul Sattar Edhi, prominent Pakistani philanthropist, who dedicated his whole life for the service of humanity is the best example of this proverb. Even after his death his son vows to continue his mission to help the poor with same spirit. Had he always advised his son to help the poor, his son, Faisal Edhi, would have never been so spirited. In fact, he saw his father serving humanity, with great zeal and zest, all his life and now he is following what he witnessed. Not only for his son but for the world, Abdul Sattar Edhi set an example to follow not through his words but actions. Even for Mr. Edhi, the path of serving humanity would not have illuminated had it not been for his kindhearted mother’s example and upbringing. Quoting the words of late Mr. Edhi, “when I was going to school, my mother used to give me two pennies each day : one for me and one to help someone who is in need.”
As William Ellery Channing defines this proverb so excellently ‘’Percept is instruction written in the sand, the tide flows over it and the record is gone. Example is graven on the rock, and the lesson is not soon lost.
We often forget things we have heard a long time ago but it’s rarely happen that we fail to recall something that have had an impact on us. I believe people are able to convince other more easily if they teach them rather by their actions than speeches. For example Prophet Muhammad (PBUH), last messenger of ALLAH, was the embodiment of perfect manners. The 100: A Ranking of the Most Influential Persons in History ranks Prophet Muhammad at the top of the list. Why ? because he trained Muslims by setting perfect examples through his actions. He did not only ask people to speak the truth but through his trustworthy actions he made them realize the value of truth. Even his enemies used to call him ‘The Truthful, the Trust-worthy’. He not only asked people to forgive one another but also set himself as an example by forgiving his bitterest enemies who humiliated him and his followers, after conquering Makkah. Not only for his sayings but also because of his deeds, he is considered as a role model for Muslims.
Similarly even if we talk about a common scenario, a student can forget in exams that CO2 is prepared by treating metallic carbonate with dilute mineral acids but only if he has learned it by experimenting in laboratory, there are little chances that he will forget.
As we are all familiar with a common saying, ‘’Actions speak louder than words’’. Great people Abraham Lincoln, Mahatma Gandhi, Martin Luther King, Muhammad Ali Jinnah and Nelson Mandela did not get so much fame and respect through their words but actions.